Would you cheat on your partner?
And what do you actually count as cheating?
For me it doesn’t have to be a physical act for it to be damaging in a relationship yet I seem to be starting to worry that I may be alone in that opinion.
Have we become desensitized to what we are doing? Do we not accept our online actions as reality because it isn’t our physical selves doing described actions or our voices saying these things to the person face to face?
I have recently been witness to a lot of this kind of topic. People cheating or being cheated on, people flirting and engaging in sexual conversations via text messages or social networking and it has left me completely crushed.
It is as though we just don’t value what we have any more and all this interaction, that could be used for so many positive things, is now nothing more than a forum for seedy goings on behind the backs of the person you say I love you to on a daily basis.
Today I sat shaking my head hearing myself say “but surely if you are talking to someone else about sleeping with them and are planning on going through with it then you don’t really love him and should end things?” Which was met a plethora of excuses and “rationalisations”.
I feel sorry for the person sat at home thinking they are in love and it is mutual.
And it isn’t just physically cheating on someone, not just kissing or sleeping with someone once or multiple times but this increasing social interaction based solely around flirting, sex and secrecy. It makes me so disappointed to think people are sitting with their loved ones whilst talking to someone else, someone they may not even know, about things of a sexual nature. It breaks my heart to consider this may have been done to me in the past.
It all boils down to this.
If you love someone you love them. Love may not be easy, sometimes you may want to scream at each other and walk away but because you love them you sit it out and work things through. That is love.
If you find yourself hiding your messages and telling someone else what you want to do to them or even just browsing for the possibility to do so then leave the person you are with as you are not committed to them and they deserve better.
I am tired of wiping the tears off peoples faces, including my own, because of this type of thing. Just be honest with people.
If I found myself having conversations of a sexual nature to fill the void in my relationship, if I needed someone’s attention to make me feel better and if I slept with someone else or even considered it I would leave my partner because it would be completely apparent that I did not want them any more. It is better to walk away than to stay living a lie and doing things behind someone’s back that will ultimately destroy the person in a much more brutal way than walking away when the cracks started showing. Either you will have to end it further down the line or, as will usually happen, they will find out because no matter what you think .. You are not that clever.